We’re 5 weeks into lent and whether we chose to follow this Liturgical Season or not, the principle of having an annual time to pause and reflect and discover where we are at in life is still an important principle & practice. A meaningful time of contemplation. A time to be honest with ourselves and have the courage to explore the solitude & silence within, and hold a space of kindness and acceptance of self, when we are faced with the deep truths of who we are. But how do we know that what we are discovering within during that solitude & silence is the truth? It seems that Truths can be viewed as subjective and saying the words …

This is my truth

might not be truth at all! It could be that this is your experience and your perception of your life. It could be that your beliefs which impact the lens that you see yourself and the world through is not truth at all. Our beliefs have been developed by our life experiences, our cultures, our parenting, our education and many other things. If you feel like you’re not worth anything and you’re not good enough does that make it truth? Just because you feel it is? So are we looking at the language we’re using and the meaning behind that language?

Who dictates what it truth? What is truth is something that is true, right? True is defined as …

consistent with fact or reality … something accurate and not illusory

So the truth must be something that is accurate and factual. If you’re believing something that is disempowering, unkind, intolerant or not based in actual facts or reality then it’s NOT truth. It’s definitely not YOUR truth! It’s your perception of a situation. So let’s take some time to reflect on who we are and have the courage to be real and honest. If we notice that we consistently have thoughts that produce negative feelings towards ourselves and others then I’d question the truth of those thoughts. You may have had negative experiences, especially in relationships, in the past that have been the source of why those thoughts have developed, but doesn’t mean it’s true of everyone you meet or every situation. Sadly if we don’t face what’s within we often do repeat similar situations that leads to similar outcomes. This then can become a self-fulfilling prophecy and further supports the negative beliefs that we hold, but it still doesn’t make it TRUTH!

So take some time to pause and reflect and have the courage to be honest with yourself with a view to developing a growth mindset that leads to a happier and more fulfilled life. If you find that too difficult or painful then get in touch with me, or someone else, and get some support with this. The truth that you face may be painful but it can lead to healing and freedom, and this is what I want for YOU!

Love & blessings, Samantha